So why does it hurt so bad? This is supposed to be when our dreams turn into reality. We are moving to Williams, AZ, 40 miles west of Flagstaff. We will be living on a lovely 5 acre parcel dotted with Juniper trees and wildflowers, surrounded by fresh, clean mountain air. Low temperatures in the summer, snow in the winter. The kids get to continue their Waldorf education. The house will be downsized to a 21' travel trailer. The chickens can even move with us. Perfection.
Except I will be alone at this for five days a week because Tris has been offered and has accepted a job two hours from Williams. I would go, but there is no college that I could attend up there. I have finished all I can at community college. She has tried to be reassuring that all is well, that this is the right move. I am trying to be brave for her, but I am not doing a very good job of it.
On top of her being gone, I have to sell the house. I couldn't afford it anymore anyway, so the sale is an inevitability, but I am still crushed. We started our dream here. We planted trees that will bare fruit and nuts next spring. We have two thriving gardens and happy chickens. I have a kitchen that I can cook, bake and can in. A bathtub to wash the clothes. I will not get to see the trees produce. I won't even know if all the love I have put into the house will be appreciated by the next owner.
I am leaving friends and family dinners behind. I am leaving serious porch swing nights and lazy trampoline days behind. Pretty much everything is to be sold. It is very scary. She is leaving me behind to part with all this by myself.
And what do I gain? Stars. Air that Number 2 can breathe. Pure beauty surrounding me. Much time to think. A healthy place for the kids to grow up with huge imaginations. Snow, but not too much. A better degree. A chance to really know if I can make it on next to nothing. Growth in myself. Maybe spirituality.
My dream started here. Now it has to restart somewhere new. Being the impatient type, this is a hard pill for me to swallow. Starting over. Starting over the way I want. And doing it with a girlfriend who will hopefully be happier, even if it means I don't have her around. I'm not going to lie and say I am happy about this part, but I am 100% happy for her to have this opportunity.
Instead of family dinners, we will have weekend family camp-outs, so dust off your tents and Richanne, I need my other sleeping bag back some time soon. <3. Life in Phoenix will move on without us, but life in Flagstaff will just be getting started in December. I hope I can set all my fears aside long enough to get everything done here in order to move.
To the Moon, Alice....
Good luck, darling! I have the utmost faith in you. I know you will be successful and happy in all that you do!
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ReplyDeleteI stumbled upon your blog and it was like reading everything that is happening to us! We too had to leave a home that we worked very hard on. My husband practically built it with his own two hands. And now we are starting over and moving to Williams. We want a better life for our kids. We already love the area and we own a travel trailer so we figured what the heck! We are currently looking for affordable acreage but have only been able to find an acre for a low down payment. At least that is better than what we have now. Well I shouldnt say that we have each other and our 4 kids so we are blessed in that way. Anyhow, just wanted to drop a line and let you know you wont be alone out there in Williams! If you would like to keep in touch let me know. Best of luck to you and yours!
I would very much like to keep in touch with you sgirl. You can email me at twoqueerhippies@gmail.com. I have no way of getting a hold of you though, so you should definitely email me. Sorry I have been slacking on writing on the blog. I will pick it up again soon. Things are really crazy right now. I'm sure you know what I mean.
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